When my son was born he was already in a sort or crisis. He had contracted group B strep at birth and was a very, very sick boy. Because they didn't heal stick at the time (they do now thanks to my son's case and two other families who chose to fight "city hall".) they were unaware that he had CAH. He was so sick they told us to come and say goodbye to him one night. They couldn't understand why he was so sick from this infection and wasn't responding. My priest came and held him as they took him off the resperator and low and behold, he began to fight for his life. He wanted to be here! They were able to stabilize him after that but he was still in grave danger. We continued to pray and ask for answers as to why he was so sick. Be careful what you ask for!!!! He presented with CAH Severe salt-wasting 21etc....at about two weeks of age. A new thing to battle, but we would be finally taking our son home after 28 days in NICU. We embraced the disorder and learned all we could during the stressful time of having a newborn at home (I also had a 14 month old daughter who needed me). We also hated it. But we felt we had an obligation to inform our families about this genetic disorder. I have 6 brothers and sisters and my husband has 3 sisters. One was pregnant with twins at the time. The responses to our cautions were received very differently by each sibling. Some wanted to know more, some said I'm done having children so I don't need to know about this because they don't have it, but what I wasn't ready for was this....some acted as if I had given them this problem to worry about and resented it. What I have been babbling on for is to let you know that some people would rather play Ostrich than to consider that their beautiful little child might have such a thing as a "disorder or disease". I did it myself in the NICU and I continued deniying it right up until his first crisis from a severe case of RSV (upper respiratory infection) that kept him in the ICU for 4 days and was the second time I had almost lost him. That woke me up to the cold, hard facts that I couldn't deny any more. This was a life long thing and the best defense is knowledge and constant education. That brings me to my final thought for you and then I will shut up! There is a HIGHLY CONTROVERSIAL study going on out there that suggests that even a carrier of the CAH disorder may exhibit similar symptoms and difficulties that a child/person with full blown CAH does. Genetics tells us that either you have it or you don't. I am being tested for this next month but again I stress that it is just a study. As of yet there are no concrete answers - it is just being looked into. I will keep this board posted if anything comes of it but it is an Austrailian based study. Tell your husband's cousin the facts and stay close to her. She is quite young, at the age where denial is a natural form of emotional defense. If that fails, perhaps you could phone her pediatrition on your own and explain things to him/her about CAH. It might be a little uncomfortable for you but I already know you have great strength because you are a mother successfully caring for two children with CAH. Good luck and please let us know how the child makes out. Until then we will pray for you. LKT