I see I have stirred up quite some thinking here! I never thought I would get such a big response. THANK YOU all for sharing your opinions and experiences with me. Stopping the meds is definitely out of the question! I hope I didnt give anyone the impression that I would even consider such a thing. I rather have my son alive and gay, than straight and dead. Sorry but its just a CAH fact we have to live with. After intense phsycolocigal testing, the feminine signs ARE there (Yes, I ,too, believe a man in tuned with his feminine side makes a much better husband). Its not 100% certain that CAH is responsible, but the Florinef treatment can indeed be the cause of this. My son is being seen by the very best doctors in NY. So if they say I have legitimate reason for my concerns, then I believe them. I am not one to judge anyone - I accept people as they are (gay or straight). Im just struggling alot with the moral (or immorailty) of it all. I feel torn between LOVE (accepting him no matter what) and ANGER (I dont want him to be gay!) The best advice I have received is to take it one day at a time. Up until just a few days ago, I was doing just that. But then I received an email attachment (from someone I dont even know) that really disturbed me. It was a video clip of two boys (no more than 12 years old!) engaging in oral and anal sex. It completely disgusted me. I cant get the darn image out of my head. Now I cant help but picture my son in such a relationship. THATS NOT what I want for him. I thought I could accept anything as long as I love him, but what if I can't?! ....I am so confused!