I just got on the message board for the first time in a couple of days and I can't believe what I missed! Gender issues and sexual orientation are certainly controversial topics! This type of discussion is exactly why we need this message board so badly. Most of us don't feel comfortable going to family and friends with our concerns about our children's sexual development. They just wouldn't understand. But the many people on this message board dealing with the exact same concerns certainly do. I also want to say how happy I am that for most part people's responses were very thoughtful, sensitive and positive. We all have our opinions (some of us very strong opinions) on these sensitive issues which are based on our own experiences, values, family upbringing, religious beliefs, understanding of the issue, etc.. It is important that we all feel comfortable expressing our own experiences and opinions/beliefs while at the same time respecting others whose beliefs may be different from our own. All of our opinions are valuable even if they are different. I think when Lucy posted her original message on this topic she wanted to hear all sides and she did. I hope that we can continue to have such lively discussions without turning them into debates or name-calling sessions. (Having a debate about whether or not homosexuality is sin is pointless--we'll never get the bottom of that). We are all united by our experiences with CAH and I think we all feel like close friends, even though most of us have never met. It would be a shame if we ever felt divided by our opinions on different topics!