If anybody wants to continue discussing this, then I think it would be in the best interest of a harmonious discussion to direct all comments to Lucy, who originated the topic. She is the one wanting information and support. We can all bat our heads forever, and never convince each other to change our solidly held opinions, Lucy however seems to be wanting opinions, since her mind is not entirely made up. If you feel that she should be open to the possibility that her son has been born homosexual, then give her what courteous advice you can along those lines. If, on the other hand, you feel that it's a matter of choice and not biology, then offer her just as courteous advice on how to deal with the problems presented her.