i agree with mara regarding infomation being kept from me regarding my health. it became a real issue when i had to take over my own health and body as an adult because no one had taught me the proper way to ask questions and get the answers that i am looking for. i suggests that you involve your child in as much of her own health as possible and allow her to ask questions in response and directly to the dr if necessary to help ease her own fears. just because you shield her from things that you think that she can't handle she probably knows more than she lets on to you and she may be afraid to ask because she is not confronted directly. this is just my thoughts.