Andrew... there was a woman on this board who would have loved talking to you. She has a son with CAH and she has questions/concerns about the exact topics you mention in your post. Her son has a lot of feminine traits and she wasn't sure what to make of it or how to handle it. I think some people may have misinterpreted what she wanted to know and there were some not-so-nice replies to her questions. I wish I could remember her name. When I have time I'll search the archives for her name. I'm pretty sure she left an e-mail for people to reach her. I know she'd want to talk to you.