I can understand your venting. I have a daughter, and I know the focus does go on that alot. But I always tell people I was lucky she was a girl because, had she been a boy, it may have gone unnoticed and she could've died. I guess once the chaos has passed following birth/crisis/diagnosis for boys, the focus seems to shift away. I'm not saying that's RIGHT, I'm only saying that it's what seems to happen. I can see why that would be frustrating.