my 4 month old daughter was scheduled to have surgery last week. i cried every day after i made the appointment. how could i cut her clitoris off and hope she has sensation? i want her to have a healthy happy sex life. i kept asking her "do you want to look "normal" and possibly feel nothing or are you allright with looking a little different and definately have feeling?" then i realized she's too young to answer me. if she wants her body to look normal with the possible consequences than she can make that decision herself. this was truly the worst and hardest decision i ever had to make. after much research, we have decided not to have the clitoralplasty done. i am so much more at ease with this decision. my daughter is moderately virilized. her clitoris is enlarged and her labia are fused. (if she was more seriously virilized to the point of having what looked like a penis i may have had the surgery.) the surgeon was really guilting me into having the surgery performed right away. i have since consulted with two other doctors who have assured me that we are doing the right thing by leaving her alone. one of these doctors lectures on just such topics as the psychological outcome of CAH patients. both see general populations and reassured us that women's anatomy comes in all sizes of normal. we will have to have the vaginoplasty performed but we're not sure when best to do it. we've heard that having it done early is better since they won't remember it. but i've also heard that many times the procedure needs to be done again prepuberty as the scar tissue has closed the opening. if this is the case then wouldn't waiting and only having one surgery be better? i'm confused on this. any advice would be appreciated. i know what you are going through. just listen to your heart and follow what you feel to be right. good luck to you all and many blessings.