I was thinking that myself Goldie. Another thought that wasn't brought up was the fact that the child that you already have with CAH may, as it gets older feel inferior or tainted in some way when s/he finds out the reason for the donor. I was faced with the possibility of using DI when my husband had suffered through several years of male factor infertility. We opted for IVF and were lucky enough to conceive on the very first try. My CAH son came to us all on his own, and quite by surprise, a very pleasant surprise I might add. My sister in law, who works in the medical field has told me on numerous occassions that every single person walks around with the possibility of 7 +/- genetic disorders that could be passed on depending upon the person they have a child with and how their genes line up. To me, the known is much better than the unknown - especially when there are things (like Dex) we can do to help eleviate the virilization and imprinting of the brain. Might I suggest instead, that we rally together and demand better treatment for our CAH children. I think we can all agree that there is a lot lacking in that area. Oops, who put that soap box there?!?!? Sorry. I do understand your fear and frustration and I agree with all the others that it is an extremely personal decision. I will pray that you and your husband come to a decision that you both agree upon and that it works out best for you. Good luck and God Bless. in utero.