Let me just clarify something. Perhaps it sounded like I had my daughter's surgery for me. I am sure being a mother, you know that I would die for her. I would switch places in a heart beat. I have NEVER made a choice for my daughter that would EVER be in the best intrest for ME. At the time I made my choice I did not have this message board to come to. It was still a choice I made VERY carefully with EVERY OTHER choice I have ever made in her short life, and will continue to until she is old enough to make her own choice. It is called being a parent. Let me repeat myself again by saying it is something that was made in HER best intrest that I as a parent thought was right.Only you will know. When I was  pointing out to the doctor that he should not belittle our feelings as parents about the whole picture it was not all about my feelings. Children grow up. Things said now about my child in daycare, could overrun into her older life. In turn, effecting HER life. Even if the chance were slim it was still a chance. I too searched for an answer. Never do I push the issue to have this surgery done. Nor do I discourage it. It is a choice that NO ONE but you can make. I did not worry what people were going to say to ME, I was worried what people were going to say to my daughter if it was not done. But that is NOT the sole reason for making this choice I have my many other reasons. I still worry what the effect on her mental health will be if someone reaches her before I do and says, "You know you were a boy when you were born?" I have to contend with the fact I had already named her by a boy name for a week. Not long to some, but when it is this big of a mistake, baby news travels fast. I think now that I  would want to fix her vagina later if there is a problem that occurs from the early surgery, then later have to get councling to fix her confused mind. It is a personal issue. One that I HATE to bring to this message board because it is too personal. But I do want to give the percentage of mom's that had already had it done a voice. That we NEVER intended this to be a hurtful thing we decided for our girls. My God, whoever would want to hurt their own child.? Remember this, EVERY child is different, EVERY situation is different. You know your situation, you know your family. If you feel it can be left alone and just do the opening of the vagina then do it.  I would have definately did it that way if the circumstances were different. I am telling you to pray on it. He is the only one that can truly help you to make the right choice and have peace with it. Perhaps one day my daughter will come to me and say she wishes I didn't have it done for physical reasons. That I can work through. It won't be easy. Nothing ever is. Yet, I will never say I made the wrong choice for my daughter even then. WHY? Because as a parent at the time, I made the choice thinking it was the BEST FOR HER. You do what YOU think is best for your child. It is called  parenting. The hardest job in the world. (Yet the rewards of kisses are priceless) This is all I am going to post regarding this message.Like I said it is a personal issue. If you have any questions, email me. God's blessings.