My Jessica died at the age of 2.  She was born on 17 Jan 1995 and died suddenly from a staf infection and fever (adrenal crisis) on 1 Sept 997.  I sadly know your pain also.

I read this today -

" Remembering a Child"

A third of all adult Americans know the pain of losing a child or a young brother or sister. Next Sunday, Dec 10, they'll have an opportunity to honor the memory of those children. Candles will be lit in remembrance at 7pm in each time zone . Some may want to join a group virgil; other may perfer to light a candle in the privacy of their homes. The compassionate Friends, a support group founded in Britain in 1969, sponsors the event. To learn more, call 1-877-969-0010 or visit www.compassionatefriends.org