It's been awhile since I have posted although I have been spot reading occasionally still. But this is a subject that hits close to home for me currently. My son who will be 6 at the beginning of Feb was recently invited to a sleep over at his buddies house. Actually the families older daughter is also a friend of my 8 year old daughter, who does not have CAH. She is having a sleep over birthday party and my daughter has been invited. They have decided to let their son also have some friends over and to just keep the groups separate. Mind you this isn't until 1/13. I can't tell you the pit I got in my stomach over this. I know some of you might think he is to young for this however, most of my son and daughters friends are siblings so often times my children are together. I absolutely am comfortable with the family and they do know of my sons condition and have even administered his pills in the past when he was at their home. I absolutely have no problem with his sleeping over nor does my husband. In fact I am even thrilled that for the first sleep over my daughter will be there. The issue for me is the CAH. The father in this case is the "mister mom" at his house. I have expressed with comfort my concerns to him. Which are to much junk food hence getting sick. They only live a few miles from our home but it's just that pit in my stomach. I just don't want to hold him back in any way because of CAH. I recently discussed this with my endo. I explained to her that I was finding it hard now that I wasn't in total control of his little world because he was getting older and not always in my reach. But Chris D, I have to tell you reading your words was like I had written them myself. I handled things the exact same way and feel the exact same way you do. I have also received some of the same comments as you have which is why I am backing off a bit. But I also know that people are generally good and don't mean harm by their comments. In fact I'm sure I've made a few myself that have undoubtedly offended when that wasn't my intention. As parents we just love our children so much that we want so desperately for them to be "perfect". Thanks for listening Judy