I have come to terms with my daughter's surgery. I have no regrets only that I wish it were me instead of her. I never like to post messages when this subject emerges. Why, because I don't need you or anyone else to tell me I made the wrong choice OR right choice because I am the mother of my child. I know I made the right choice. I am here only to give a voice to all the parents that have already made these choices that you so turn into something we wanted to selfishly do.  How can anyone possibly think that a child can grow up and feel confident of her sexuality looking down at her genitals that looks like a penis? Come on. You are not even touching on that subject. Why can I see your pain that you endured by having a botched surgery? Why can't you see others that could or would endure the mental pain of growing up with a clitoris that looks like a penis? That is just as unfair as you feel it is unfair that we have the surgeries done. I am in no way belittling what you or any other women has gone through with a bad surgery. I know your pain is real. You not ever understanding the other side makes me sad because you have so much positive energy into helping others, but it only seems that only a percentage will benifit when there could be so many others. I wish we could  bring the two together but I just don't see it happening. I truly from the bottom of my heart wish you the best. Your experience must have been so hard that it has overshadowed the positives that surgery could bring. Perhaps you will never see this subject as one with me. I truly respect you yet am disappointed you never will respect me. This is my final post on this thread. Your first post for this thread asked for any input. I gave you mine in my first post. What you do with it is up to you. Good luck with your meeting.