Hi AIMEE! You have confused me now. When I posted on the other board about why some cah women still felt embarassed about what they looked like after the surgery, you posted "I'm not embarassed. I'm mad" You were NOT happy with the results. So I am a bit confused how you stand now.?? If you are just trying to come to terms with how to live a happy life and not "dwell" on your surgery I think that is GREAT! I realize the surgery changed since yours and that you hope it is better today. I hope that it changed since 1983 too. I only hope that people are aware of the possibilities that it may not have. I have been coming to this board for a few years trying to get adult women to talk about this so that ALL the new parents could find out. How else can parents know this??? I have seen this subject get turned into a debate over blaming parents or whether they are intersexed or not. Being a parent myself I have NEVER put the blame on parents. And the issues of whether you feel intersexed or are a lesbian are not MY issue. That is for all the adult women to decide for themselves. MY issue has always been "does the surgery cut through the nerves or not". How else can the surgeon's ever learn this if nobody talks about it??? My daughter told me only because I asked her. Nobody else has, and that includes the surgeons. As far as they know, her clitoral surgery is a success. Has today's surgery changed?? I have been coming here for years trying to find out. If they learned anything from my daughter's surgery that is good for today's children. But as a parent who's # 1 instinct is to protect MY child it is not a very good feeling. I aso cringe when this subject is brought up. Let me just say again, my daughter did NOT tell me that she is upset about the surgery because she is intersexed or a lesbian. She was an innocent 16 year old girl who had a boyfriend and answered her mothers question. I have read that some doctors are saying that this is only a problem for a group of radicals who believe they are a 3rd sex. That infuriates me.That has nothing to do with it. My husband, daughter, and myself are just as average and normal as anyone else. I can assure you that my daughter's surgeon will not ever be able to look me in the eye and make that claim. I know that DebC had her first surgery before yours and it left her sensation intact. She grew up with an enlarged clitoris and had another surgery as an adult and is happy with it. (still has sensation) Apparently there were some differences even back in the 60's. Differences in surgeons? Differences in anatomy? I don't know!! I don't know if there is today either. If somebody has some info on this proving that the techniques work, will you PLEASE share it with me! I would like to thank ALL the cah women for sharing their personal experiences. I know this is not an easy topic for you. Peace and Love to all. :)