Lynda, I don't think you are being overprotective. You are in the process of learning how to deal with your new daughter and with her disorder. I haven't heard of a single Mom or Dad who was not terrified when they first heard the diagnosis. Right now your daughter is under a very large amount of stress. Regardless of how bad (or good) her previous life was -- she has lost it all. I would guess that as she becomes more comfortable in her new life, and completes the grieving process from her losses, you will see a little girl who is entirely different that what you see today. Adoption of older children is a different type of a challange for both the parent(s) and child. Janet