First I must say I am surprised to read a comment such as "it would be for the parents benefit", coming from you Danny. Hurt is not the word. I thought you of all people would just know that the choices that were made OR will be made were out of the LOVE of our children. You know that unconditional love, the kind that you would die for them? How I benefitted from watching my daughter endure the whole surgery is beyond me. When and if your daughter does opt for surgery, I hope you are there. I hope you are there to hold her hand and wish to God it was you instead of her laying there. For my benefit? I did not see ANY benefit to me or my husband. It is as insulting as someone would condem you for saying you benefitted from keeping your daughter from having the surgery. WOW. The comments that hurt the most on this board are the ones that are made about us parents that made this choice because we were selfish. I literally shake with disbelief that ANYONE especially one with as many children as you have could make such an assumption. You are not the only one that has ever made this commment so I am not personally attacking you. I considered the source  from that person. But from you as a parent, that really surprised me. I am truly disappointed.