First of all NO ONE said that having ambiguous genitalia made ANYONE less of a person! If you yourself were born without a penis but with gonads, would you feel masculine? I am not talking would you peer into the mirror and think, "Gee I wish I looked WISH i LOOKED LIKE richard geriCHARD iLlook like I don't fit in with society."Gee I wish I was thinner. Gee, I wish I  could get this beauty mark taken off of my face. Gee, I wish I looked like the guy on the cover of GQ." NO. To a girl that is looking down at this structure that LOOKS like a penis she ain't gonna think, gee I wish it was prettier. I think she is going to say GEE, I wish I looked MORE feminine. Looking feminine in turn makes a woman feel feminine. Some may be able to cope well with it. I believe they are out there too. Once again it is not cosmetic for like a tummy tuck or a nose job. It boils down to it mentally. NO NOT ALL GIRLS THAT HAVE THE SURGERY LEFT UP TO THEM WILL FEEL THIS WAY, BUT SOME DO BELIEVE IT OR NOT. NOR DO I THINK ALL  OF THEM ARE ARE FULL OF PROBLEMS. But reading Aimee and some others, this can effect them in a big way. Don't belittle Aimee's life by denying these feelings don't exist. Don't think you will escape your daughter resenting your choice not to have the surgery done just because YOU feel her genitals won't bother her. I would LOVE to hear from these women that have had the opportunity to wait. It would give me great peace to know they got through this if the choice was left up to them. We would have had the opportunity to hear from Michelle if you had not barged in with to making YOUR OWN point instead of letting Michelle make her point, answering questions. Geesh. This is what I mean when I say the debating is damaging to an extent. Now this well meaning thread is just about worthless. I know when this starts many drop off the board to avoid the bickering. Now no one learns.