Boy, do I remember where you're coming from! My son was up MANY times a night, and even when he slept, he tossed and turned, moaned and groaned most of the night (which was torture to a light sleeper like me!). He eventually grew out of this, although still sleeps "all over" his bed (and I maybe don't notice his restlessness as much, because he is now in his own bed most of the time! Gee - that's awful!) He sleeps about 10-11 hrs a night (he's 6), and hasn't napped since he was 3; he definately is getting enough sleep, because he is full of energy and good-natured during the day. My daughter hasn't napped since she was just short of 2, although she sleeps a good 11-12 hrs every night; she's one of those kids who's almost always in a good mood, so she must be getting enough sleep, too. Every kid is SO different. I guess the main thing is to make sure they are getting the sleep that they need, which is pretty evident by their behaviour during the day. Trying to cut out naps is a good idea, and you might consider that maybe she just doesn't need as much sleep anymore (is she tired in the morning? Do you have to drag her out of bed?) As for you, why not let your daughter's dad sleep with her now and then and give you a "night off"?! (Yes, dad's can do this, too, despite what they'd like us to believe!). One book that I found really helpful is, "Night-time Parenting" by Dr. William Sears (I think! We're in the middle of packing for a move, and I've packed my books already, so I couldn't check for sure!). Do whatever you need to do so that BOTH of you get as much sleep as possible, and take heart: there WILL come a time when you won't be able to get her OUT of bed! Blessings.