Thank you everyone for your responses.  I was unable to get online sooner than this evening.  Wendy-Lee and Julie,  I have read your responses and did not want to overwhelm myself by answering everyone's at one time, and baffle by saying too much at one time.  Wendy-Lee I do not know of a site that he might relate to with other's his own age with CAH, but PLEASE email me it.   One  problem, however, is he doesn't want or thinks he needs help.  I have had "therapy" for many years dealing with my childhood and ailment, I feel that he thinks you are "crazy" if you are seeing a councelor; and not that you are actually strong if you admit you need help and put forth the effort to get it.  Also, his father left when he was five and bascially has had no contact with either of his sons since then.  He did not even show up for Kev's graduation. ( he lives 20 mins. away).  Kev resents any offering of help or kindness.  He respects my brother and sister-in-law, even lived for them for awhile; but he became so hateful to their daughter, they had no choice but to send him back to live with me. (where he threatened physically myself, and did physically hurt Brad  and actually threatened to kill Brad.)         I don;t mean to give you life history, just understand everyone loves Kev and has tried, but Kev ends up forcing everyone away with his anger and complacient attitude toward his well-being.(My family and I get to the point where you want to shake him to listen that he is loved and we ARE trying to help him and show him our love.)    But, our love for him keeps us trying time after time.  We won't give up, but I am getting scared.  Julie I very much appreciate your imput as well and will try hard to get him to someone.  Believe it or not, he is a salt-waster.  Big time.  At one point he was on so much florinef that the doctors thought that both of my boys had no adrenal gland function what-so-ever.  Continually dehydrating. Kevin spent more time in ambulances and hospitals after birth.  As he became older (7 yrs.) in emergency rooms getting "refueled" on IV's with his hydorcortisone.  He would be fine one second and the next vomiting uncontrolablly.  Every visit their Hydroxy-Pegestrone levels were in 10's of thousands.  One time over 50,000.  Their meds. were always given in proper amount at the proper time.  The doctor's could never understand them. Sometimes I wonder if they were used more for experimental work than to be treated.  I was not told until Brad was 12 that they should be seeing an endocronologist.  They were seeing a specialist at Egelston Hosp. in ATl. GA.  A pediatric genetic specialist.          Kevin has developed a bone disease in his back and had to have a rod put in. The doctor's would not preform the surgery because his levels were so off and he wasn't taking his meds.  His endo increased his doses and a month later they did the surgery.  His means for taking the meds. to have the surgery......he would be at least 2" taller and the thought made him proud. As soon as he woke up he asked me how much taller he was. (I smiled for him)  He knows he is going to dye and doesn't care.  do I have to get a court order, which my not be given till it is to late; for mandatory shots?  I love him so much.     One more thing if you are asking yourselves while all the desperate concern.  Kev has lived with my mom for the last 2 years and has not talked to me much. (I honestly don't know why?  He thinks his dad is the best.)  but lately he is talking to me.  He gets along great with my partner and her daughter and is finally  opening up to me.  I don';t want to push him away, but I have to help him.  I have tried along with my mother many times to find info online about CAH and have found nothing let alone a Message Board.  So thank you for being here and listening and responding.  I will not just take, but hopefully help and share as well.  Thank you.      Beth