To ShaunP and Tina, thank you so much for your kind words that you have directed to me.  To the rest of the armchair doctors, researchers and religious teachers out there who have posted THEIR findings and opinions, I shall not waiver.  Do those of you who are against surgery have little girls that look like little boys, or do they just have an enlarged clitoris?  There is an old Indian Proverb that says, "Do not judge a man until you have walked a mile in his moccasins".  Get the hint?  Do you actually think I just dove into surgery without considering everything you all have had to say about the procedure in the past?  Do you think, based on what I said about the initial announcement that I had a baby boy that there is NO medical necessity?  HMMM?!  As I said before, I truly do respect the knowledge of those who have this condition, who have lived with this condition and who offer up so selflessly information concerning outcomes based on their lives, but, this is my decision, based on my situation, based on the fact that I have a little one who does not resemble a female at all, based on my two year olds realization that her sister has a "pee-pee", (and not that that had any weight concerning my decision, decision had already been made, but made me see that children do focus on genitalia), based on the fact that I have chosen one of the best, if not the best surgeon in the United States to perform this surgery, who has performed these types of surgeries once a week for almost a decade now, based on what I feel, I repeat, what I feel is right, not what you think is right.  Do you really think that I think the mentioning of counselling means that I am unstable?  I am well aware of the benefits of counselling and think that there are many out there whom benefit from it, it is a good thing, not a bad one, but as far as I am concerned, I am not suffering from any delusions about my baby, she is beautiful.  Yes, God gave her to me this way, so, as someone suggested, should I just leave her that way and when she gets old enough encourage her not to have the surgery because God made her that way and that is just how it is?  Not to be able to enjoy sex, that she should like it just how she is?  After all, the bottom line is that that is exactly what you are saying.  HMMM?!  God also gave us the knowledge and ability to become doctors and have medicine.  We all use the medicine they give us right?  And, if I should just accept her the way God gave her to me, then NONE of us should have these kids, because he would have taken them all back, right?  HMMMM!?  We are quick to use Doctors and medicine when it benefits us directly, but are quick to pass judgement when we can sit in our armchairs with our medical research books and point long fingers at each other because it is not directly affecting us.  She does not need just a clitoral reduction, but rerouting of many things in order to prevent infections.  So, the snap judgements, the intellectual responses and questions directed to me and to the subject are ones made and asked due to everyone surmising that I am blindly groping my way in the dark unable to see the light.  None of you know all of the circumstances, but at least one of you (ShaunP), has acknowledged that virilization ranges wildly, as well as circumstances.  Kudos to all who decide to let their children decide when they become adults, kudos to all who decide to have the surgery performed while their children are small.  As I stand over the cauldron of bubbling, frothy despair watching those dog paddling inside of it I realize that I do not wish to be pulled into it, I just want to stand on the edge of it and stir the pot a bit, keeping myself aware.  I have sampled that broth, and I DO NOT LIKE THE TASTE of it.  How sad that I should feel as if there is a witch hunt going on, with the villagers gathered in great numbers with their torches burning, nooses hanging from their arms.  "Shame on you, you uninformed mother, shame, shame, shame, to so selfishly make a horrid decision such as you have, without listening to the Wizards of Oz who are all knowing".  "To the guillotine with her, off with her head".  Well, to all the villagers, I shall gather my babe in my arms and leave this distasteful place without any of you getting close enough to even try to inflict your opinions.  How sad that such a wonderful site with so many informed and extremely knowledgeable people cannot offer up words of support, DESPITE what their own personal opinion may be.  We have all gathered here to gain support and knowledge about this condition, not to be browbeat and antagonize about decisions some of us have to make.  I am sure postings will come back with stodgy, structured responses telling me that know one is browbeating, etc, etc, la la la, that you all are in fact giving me good solid support by offering up your backed up information, etc.  Well, don't expect any more responses on this from me.  Wouldn't it have been nice to just read, good luck, hope you have made a well thought out decision for your child.  Although it is not the decision I would have made, I will keep you and your daughter in my prayers, good luck, godspeed.  No, instead, the responses, although intelligent and not malicious, have been ones to question me, my ability to make sound judgement, and my inability to have done ANY research.  I did not ask for this interrogation, I posted an opinion, and boy, you all came out of the woodwork.  Again armchair doctors, thank you, thank you, thank you for solidifying for me that my decision is the correct one.  Sounds as if misery loves company, no thanks, swim around in your stale and stagnate frappe by yourselves.  Goodbye.  You again have succeeded in driving off another mother who could really have benefitted from positive words of support.  Guess this board is really not about that, but instead, who has the most medical information, done the most research, and who knows what about what.  I must rush out and get my PhD before the store closes.  Good luck, God bless us all, God Bless America!  Kaye