I am sorry i have no idea how to use instant messager...my kids do but try fighting them for the computer when they are home.  I have to do this when they are not here!  I can understand your maybe not wanting to answer this question in public, I know it is very personal, but I was thinking that what you have to say might go a long way in bringing together the different sides of this issue.  You don't seem angry at your parents, you are heterosexual, and you seem fine with growing up with cah, it wasn't a big hidden thing or something to be ashamed of.  You are what all the parents of girls thinking about this surgery want their daughters to be when they grow up.  In that way you are maybe just a little bit different from the other adults who have been through this, at least the ones who come to this board, and I think it would be good to know what someone like you feels in this situation also, whether or not surgery and making them look like a girl is more important than being able to have a good sex life.  Like i said, i understand if you don't want to say this in public.  I  don't mean to pry, it is just to help me understand the situation better when i read all these back and forths, and from someone who lives it everyday.  I hope you are not mad at the question, I ask it with peace in my heart, but I also understnad if you don't wnat to say.  Thank you.