It seems like to me that you are saying that I needed counseling to change views that I had made when I was younger and also comfortable with or in other words you are saying that I needed to be counseled out of the views that I had back then. Counseling is for people that want it. One of the tenants behind counseling is a belief in self- determination. I was not uncertain in the way I felt. I did have counseling to verify my feelings.

 

My parents did not have counseling that I am aware of. My parents picked me knowing what I was born with. I'm adopted. If they were uncomfortable with CAH and the degree of virilization that I had they could of taken another child. My parents said that the minute that they saw me they knew I was the one they wanted.  

 I feel that by saying in your post," there are ways to move around issues such as you have mentioned " that it seems like you do not validated what I think about this. In my other posts I wrote that  knew what I had wasn't right for me and also that I like the idea of surgery being done at age five and up. This was for surgery that I needed.  I was born with a completely fused vagina and I voided out of a penis wanna be. Surgery needed to be done before I could have my period. My surgery was done at age 5 and I started my period at age 12. The second surgery to make it easier for sexual intercourse was done when I was 21.

If I was born with an enlarged clitoris my parents could of cared less about having surgery. I told my mom about surgeries for an enlarged clitoris. She said, " Why on earth would they do that  ? "  An enlarged clitoris should not have surgery on it unless that person wants it. Not their parents or doctors can decided that for them. I'm all for counseling if that is what the person wants. I've had counseling in the very resent past that helped me deal with some feelings about having CAH. It was very helpful.

 

Sincerely,

Aimee