I think relaxing around these kids does tend to be better as the years go by. I mean, as long as they are controlled pretty well and seldom sick (after the initial time where they build their immune system as a tot) you do tend to treat them like they are normal. I think with the exception of recently when his levels have not been great, I virtually hardly worried about Ashley much after the initial first few years. Perhaps that was with having more children after him? He blends in pretty well with the rest of the kids, but i do tend to just emphasise that he make sensible choices where activities and risk are concerned. I do this in a subtle way by making out that he is the oldest brother and needs to set the example. Not because of his condition as I know he is too young to understand at the moment the implications of what can happen in emergency situations. That fear that you feel at the moment Julia is part of the responsibility that you have to watch over whilst she is so young. However, as she becomes more independant it will change and if you teach her to make sensible decisions, then you will worry less knowing that she is more likely to make them.