Betsy and spouse, My thoughts and prayers are with you. When the time is right, think about trying again. My husband and I had our first when I was 31 and he was 34. She has salt wasting CAH, but did survive thanks to quick intervention by the ob/gyn. She is now 12 1/2 and charging ahead with life. Except for five little pills every day, you would never know she had a thing. We have gone ahead and had three more beautiful children. We had done the research and went ahead and trusted God. We knew we had enough love for anything. I had my last one at 37. We did the CVS testing and I took dexamethasomething to prevent any girls from virilizing until we knew their situation. We hit the genetics percentage right on target. #2 carries from one side, #3 carries from the other side and #4 doesn't have an affected gene at all. Turns out that my husband's brother is a carrier as well. If you sent your dear babies blood to be tested, get you and your husband typed as well. They will be able to tell at about 8-9 weeks of pregnancy which genes are which and then you will know. Best wishes, Martha