What I would say here Aimee is, if you had the choice between hurting physically and mentally for the rest of your life (knowing you cannot alter how you where when you entered life physically) which would you rahter choose:

a.) Feeling hurt physically and mentally for the rest of your life?

b.) Feeling hurt physically but feeling strong enough mentally to cope with it? 

There is a big difference and unfortunately the only person in control of how we deal in such a situation is our selves.

I don’t think anyone else can take pain and suffering away or mental anguish.  In fact I would not even know where to begin helping someone feel better by something I said or something that I did--except to compliment them frequently and try to help them see that they are blessed really in the same way as above on some level.  The rest would be up to them wouldn’t it?