When someone patronizes someone they treat them in an undignified manner and have ill intention towards them.  I don’t see any of that above.  In fact a lot of people just seem to be trying to instill some sense of confidence in people who have these bouts of depression with CAH.  As much to say you are your own master, you have all the power and you can do this!  That is dignified and that is strengethening and in no way patronising.

It’s funny because the whole time I was depressed, I had my relatives on my back and I used to think exactly the same thing actually.  How patronnizing they all are.  Now I see that they loved me enough to want to make me a strong enough person to deal with these things myself in life.  More self sufficient.   They were showing how much they love me in trying to do that also. 

So on reflection you can look at the above thread and either take it as patronising when someone is trying to instill these qualities in others or someone is trying to help others see how they can help themselves.  That is call yin and yang--positivity and negativity.

You choose which is which.