I think the bottom line here is: If you have to question what to say to this  young man that you are contemplating giving yourself to, then perhaps the time is not "right" or maybe he is not the "right" guy after all! Perhaps some more meaningful conversation between the two of you and discussing who you are and what you are both about, would lead to a closer relationship and therefore any discussion of your body would be easier. I think from just reading your posts, that it is evident that you shouldn’t be worrying because your just not ready. And no, I do not necessarily believe in waiting for marriage to have sex. Whenever it is comfortable and you have very real, deep feelings for the other, then I guess that that would be the right time. I am just not so sure that that is how you feel. If you feel that you are ready and you really love this guy, than I don’t understand what you are asking? What specifically do you tell him? Well, why not start at the beginning and just tell him the truth. That is always a good first step. I mean, you are who you are! Of course, that is just my opinion.

ValerieD