robertawww.caresfoundation.org - Congential Adrenal Hyperplasia, Research, Education, and Support - is a good place to get information about CAH. 1-973-912-3895 in New Jersey or 1-800-866-3737.
I hope you find a better doctor! My two cents - the doctor should be sued.
With proper treatment - yes - CAH children can lead a very normal life. Again - with proper treatment!!
If CAH is not treated properly children can die (especial the salt wasting CAH child). Non-classical and classical both need stress doses of cortef for severe illness (fever, repeat vomiting, etc). Did the doctor precribe solu-cortef for emergency use? Did you get directions on what to do for illness to prevent an adrenal crisis - that can cause death?