LynnTYes, my son was active in every way. He played with all the same things that his sister did at his age (they are only 14 months apart) and his interests (although more boyish) were of the same nature as hers.
He has come full circle now and is startled by sudden and loud sounds.
Have you tried the "whisper technique"? Let me know how that goes.
My heart and prayers are with you.