I believe that what I have written and what you have written are both quite valid---with the viewpoints differing by you being a mom to a CAH girl, and me, living with CAH.

I meant what I said about the meds, and as an adult I control that part of my life quite easily (but do mess up once in while given my experience earlier this summer). The surgery and shame that surrounded my body is something I could’t control and yes, it does affect my life in many, many ways---many more ways than having to take meds twice a day does.    Overcoming the shame and secrecy that was dealt me was a big deal, and still is in many ways, despite the fact that I am so "out" about it.  Unfortunately, it isn’t something I can dismiss like I do with taking my meds twice a day.

You haven’t said how old your daughter is, but it is good that you are not keeping "this secret" from her.  If you have been successful at it, then she will be like Aimee and others are, myself included---we are girls, we are fertile, deal with it.  But also understand, that there are many adults out there who survived the teasing no matter what it was about, and function quite well.

Betsy