It also is for some woman without surgery and that are NOT cah. Nothing embarassing about the question... very valid question. Some woman who have had the surgery years ago say that they have a hard time, not much evidence yet with the newer surgeries. But, as an optimist I think they are much more careful these days to save the nerves ect. One good thing about the big O is there is always time  to working at making it better. With the right partner and feeling of mutual patience , love and respect you will get it right. UNLESS you feel there is something physically wrong Keep on trying !!