I hesitate to join in but, Cherry, you have enough on your plate.   It seems as if you are doing a wonderful job.

I’m 39, SW-CAH.  I had the surgery when I was a baby (around 1964/1965).  I can’t tell you exactly what was done and there is no one left to ask.  To quote my mom, I "had surgery for an enlarged clitoris."  According to my OB/GYN, I have a "normal" clitoris now.   At the time of the surgery, they did tell my mom that I might need more later for intercourse (according to my mom, when I was 35 :-)).  I never did.

I have feeling, do orgasm, and have 4 children.  Speaking of which, I’m being summoned by my 3 yo.

Good Luck and God Bless!

Why was I lucky?  I don’t know.  Maybe Mom and Dad said enough rosaries!