Mary,

I am so sorry that this boy has made you feel so terrible about yourself for the last two years.  You should believe your doc that you are normal as far as size. They see many, many women. Truth of the matter is that your clitoris can be bigger or smaller than most but so what? Unless this boy you were with had many other partners how would he know? Actually you could have been just as mean as he was to you and said that his penis was small!!   Unless you are having other medical problems or pain of some sort, I would say that you may have just become obsessed with thinking that you have a large clitoris. Genitals can be many different sizes. Everyone is different. YGirls usually don’t go around asking girls how large or small their clitoris is. I don’t think boys go around comparing their privates either. It’s just an individual thing. If you haven’t had any sexual partners since you were 16  then maybe next time you will find someone with a little more tact. Actually, I hope you find someone who is more mature and cares more about you than what size clitoris you have. 

Sandra