i am just a grandma who is worried about her grandaughter.she is almost 4 years old,and befor she was born i had never heard of cah.she is the sweetest thing,and yet i am so worried about her,my daughter decieded to not have the sugery on her,and part of me is glad that it wont take away her feelings when it comes to sex years from now.but being a grandmother i just want the best for her and i dont want her to go thru any pain.kids making fun of her exc.....what i want to know from some one is, her clitoris is getting quite big,is it because her meds are not enough or is she getting to much?i want her to make her own decisions,and she knows that she is special,and her privates are different than other little girls,but is her attitude going to stay the same when she gets older.is she going to need counsling? there is so much we need to know,just need to have some input from other parents,children who did not have the sugery any one who can help alittle bit.