thank you margaret,for your insight. i hope that with all my heart my grandaughter will grow up with those thoughts. she is so open now about her self, and knows that she is diffenent. and she is very proud of herself, and actually i am very proud of her to. she is just matter of fact about it. she will tell her cousin she is special. i am just worried about her later in life. did you ever have counsoling? do you think that she will need that? my daughter is great with her, which makes alot of difference too, but i still think that she will need ome professional help to some degree.am i wrong?