thank you for your help. the main problem i have is that i find it hard to talk to someone about it. so if i get over that it will be a whole lot easier. i really have respect for all of you who have come to terms with the fact that you are different, it givesme hope. So if i have read correctly you can get surgery later in life?.... but susan i didnt knwo that it could shrink....what medecation are/were u taking... if you dont mind me asking