Margaret, I was interested in your response to this matter.  Perhaps you could help me as well.   I have a young daughter and am considering having another child.  I have posted some questions about taking prenatal treatment in form of dexamethasone and am currently debating whether to take this or not.  my daughter has an enlarged clitoris which is becoming less obvious as she grows.  I have never found it to be a problem and hope that, like you, she will accept it well.  She has not been operated on in infancy but I have been told that she will need some surgery to enlarge the vagina, but probably not for menstruating.  I would have no problem having another daughter like her.  My question though is, that although you did not have surgery have you still had difficulites with sexual relationships?  Do you feel that you have suffered psychologically due to the virilisation? and if prenatal treatment had been available to your mother would you have definately wanted her to take it.  i’m sorry perhaps these questions are too personal and difficult to answer, please don’t worry if you can’t

 

Difficulties as in the act itself or mentally.  I will answer both.  The act, no I am sure I had the same amount of pain as any woman would.  Mentally, I didn’t quite realize I was that different so it didn’t affect me.  The fact that I was overweight may have been more of an issue.

As for difficulties in relationships.  Yes and No.  I dated older men so they weren’t "grossed" or "freaked" out about it. I didn’t really feel too weird about it but it was still a personal concern I had when I was in my mid teens.  I began to realize that there were advantages to having a larger then normal clitoris.  They didn’t have to look for it, I didn’t have to look for it. So I found that reaching climax was much easier then most women.

Psychologically, Yes, but thats due to more of an abusive relationship that had me shave any part of my body that was "hairier" then normal girls.  I have had many relationships where it was mentioned and if it was it was because I was frustrated about the facial and body hair.  Most of the men I have been with have accepted it and were understanding about it and rarely mentioned it.  They liked me for who I was not so much what I had on my face and body.

And to answer the last question.  Yes, if there had been a treatment while I was in utero and my mother had the option to take something for it I would have said yes.

The fact is, I am who I am.  I cannot change what I have only attempt to alter the effects it has had on me.  Try to lose weight, get laser hair removal and for the enlarged clitoris...I am happy with it and so is my partner.

I am always happy to answer questions, I may not always be right but I can state from my point of view.

 

Margaret