I would be more than happy to speak with you on the phone or e-mail if you would like.  I have a 4 month old daughter with Salt Wasting CAH.  I understand your concern about will she feel like a girl when she gets older.  That was one of my first concerns besides the medical condition she has.  I was very overwhelmed when we finally got to come home from the hospital.  I was almost in a depressed state because I was so worried about her health, plus the fact that I had never heard of CAH also.  Let me know if you would like to talk I would be more than happy to anytime!  I wish I would have had a parent to talk to while I was in the hospital I felt so alone my husband was a big help but we were so confused.  Hang in there I do want you to know it does get easier.