Sherry,

 

 My 2 cents........  a bit different than the others so far.

Do you have a working car now? How long do you plan to be at the hospital?

If it were me.... I would make sure my MIL had a way to reach ME or my husband (her son).   If there was an emergency in the relatively short time I was at the hospital I would expect my husband to be the one to bring my child to the ER. Unless I am pushing the baby out or in critical need of him myself, I expect my husband to be the one to take the child to the ER. 

 Your letter is basically OK. Brief and to the point information works better than long and drawn out.  I don’t know that I would use terms such as exact...sharp....max. Stating that medicine needs to be at 9PM gets the message across well enough without adding "sharp" to it. It may be those little extras that rub her the wrong way. Would she be able to hang out at your house now to get to know your schedual better? Your daughter has not been with her more than a few hours at a time which means that your daughter will be thrown for a curve if all of a sudden there is no Mom and no Dad for more than a few hours. Her regular schedual might not mean squat in this situation.  

 In the past year I have had to be in the hospital several times for days at a time. I love my MIL. She IS great with the kids. She will do medication and I think she understands the impact of missing a dose. However, as long as my husband is alive and well there is no reason why he can’t care for his kids. He was the man in charge with his mother or other family member helping here and there when he would come to visit me in the hospital.. or sometimes he brought the kids with him. When I needed him the most he was there.

My 2.......

 

Susan