Dear Judy,

I love your story and relate to the heavy burden of this woman.  I had two children to raise...1 with CAH/salt wasting, the other with ADHD.  My CAH child nevery qualified for SSI medical assistance, but my son with a non life threatening disorder did.  My exhusb left us with nothing in the bank and nothing in my wallet.  How ironic some people don’t understand what we are going through even when we ask for help.  I don’t know if you still visit this board.  I only found it this year and am sure no one will see this message.  My daughter is in heaven now, she died at 12 and my exhusb refused to help pay for a funeral and refused to even have a funeral unless she had an autopsy.  I told him to respect our daughter and went ahead to make the arrangements with one of my close friends.  My priest told me that I didn’t do anything wrong when my daughter died and did everything I possibly could to save her.  He said he knew this because the medical examiner dismissed the autopsy.  I am still going through trials with my exhusband and hope he will not be able to take my son away from me.  My son just turned 12.  All my prayers to you.