No I don’t have my Grandson as we tried having them both all summer when there Mom was going through Chemo and sick. It was just too much for me and my son tried to raise Tristan but he could not work and take care of him. So Fortunately my Daughter stepped in and is raising Tristan. She is 34 and has no children and she is doing a great job. She is VERY idealistic and see’s good in everyone and the other family takes advantage of her a LOT . I think! She has there children over most of the time and for Tristans birthday she and her boyfriend paid all of there way into a JOhn Mayer Concert and then paid there way into Laser tag and pizza afterwards and then Busch Gardens amusement park the next day. Maritza not being included in any function because the other Grandma was in town and she used the spare tickets. I was so angry I could spit nails because she wants everything to be right in Tristans life (as I do) But  she just can’t think this family would use her! I have to let her find out on her own! Which is REALLY TOUGH! She knows how Maritza is treated and she keeps telling me it is because she is young! Now this other family is planting a wedge I feel between my daughter and I. But, I keep praying that things will work out and Maritza will be acknowledged. My daughter does help me a LOT with Maritza and watches her for us when we NEED to go out. The father is  a very spoiled ......guilt ridden manic depressive that is no good to himself much less the children. He has attempted suicide twice since his wife passed. So I joke and say we put the D in dysfunctional!! But we are getting through a day at a time and I just resent the other family having all the luxuries with none of the responsibilty with the children. I hope I am not being ugly or bitter and I try to see both sides of everthing .....but the other Grandma had Tristan all summer  in Texas and his first week home was Birthday weekend and we did not get to be around him as it all centered around her children and family! Am I overreacting and should I just let it go. I am trying too........ but evertime I think of how much control she had over MY daughter and Tristan I get upset! Not sure if there is section in the Miss Manners book on this one ! LOL Sorry for venting on a non CAH subject,but I am still seething! Later Cherry