well what happened to us was a little differnt, we thought we were having a boy the whole time we thought we had a boy named him Ryan and then five days later the doctor came to our home to let us know that they thought that ryan was sick he needed to go to the hospital and have some tests done. Then we were told we had a girl, it was very hard for me, but again I was dealing with so much she was very sick for the first year, but she is doing very well, we have choose not to have surgury, wait intill she makes that chose for her self.everything will be fine for your family, it takes time. wish you alot of luck Lisa