I remember when my 6 year old SWCAH daughter was born, we were told by doctors to treat her no differently to any other children we may have.   This was good advice and we try to do just that.  However, it is not an easy thing to do when this CAH child has, in reality, a life threatening medical condition, and I believe I really do treat her differently than her siblings, hopefully not to a great extent.  I do struggle sometimes (in silence) with guilt that she has this medical condition from myself and my husband.   I don’t think this feeling will ever go away but it doesn’t consume my life.    This is a very individual thing and I guess all parents of CAH children would feel differently.