http://caresfoundation.org these people can offer help with the decision whatever that might be. I’ve read posts by parents that were glad that they waited because their daughter "grew into" the enlarged clitoris w/ the med stopping the excessive androgens. I don’t get that an enlarged clitoris would make anyone feel freaky but rather lucky and that is just my opinion. Surgery for more virilization than just an enlarged clitoris, well I can understand that. When it all comes down to it, you really have to decide what is best for your child. What type of CAH does she have?  Do you know anything about adrenal crisis?