Have you ever thought that words like these ones taken from the Cares Foundation website may cause some of those language issues:

The clitoris is usually enlarged, and may even look like a small penis, and the labial folds may be joined to resemble the scrotum. (2nd paragraph. http://caresfoundation.org/cah.html)

As far as flaming goes, can you put forth some examples of that flaming that you pin on me?  I don’t think I am guilty of it.

Betsy