Peter,

You are obviously crossing the bridge that most parents cross and have all the same fears. CAH and not CAH. I would like to think that having cah does not effect your sexual preference. From what I have read on this board and other places I don’t think it does.....but you have some that say it does. I would just keep the line of communication OPEN with your daughter and let her know that you love her regardless of what her choice of gender is as far as a relationship goes. Maybe her first time was not a pleasant experience and she may sabotage all relationships with men to get to that point again. Also she may be struggling with how to handle relationships. 21 is still a very young age to place a steady relationship in her path. She has to mentally be prepared and confident in WHO she is. Pressure to find the perfect male partner could  be placing additional stress on her when this is not what she wants at this time. My Daughter is 35 non cah and she has trouble finding Mr. Right and when she does she sabotages her relationships for some reason or another. All I can offer is love her for who she is and have faith that she finds the RIGHT person( hopefully male) to make HER happy and then you will be happy. Just my opinion!

Hope this helps!

Sincerely,

 Cherry Lane