Hi Carrie,

Tell him that he is loved but that aggression will not ever be tolerated in no uncertain terms. Mommy who loves him, feeds him, brought him into this world and can take him out (humor here) but feels hurt by this aggression and kids don’t want Mommy to feel bad.

Appeal to his growing verbal side to express what he is feeling and show him the world doesn’t revolve around him and if he throws a fit he is only going to look foolish and only hurt himself ..even at four learn you can get more with honey than vinagar. I’m a very aggressive person which has gotten me in trouble , I mean not w/ the law in a criminal way but aggressive where it messed up school, work, and dealing w/ family. Any nasty bosses or co-workers? I’ve taken them right down but it never got me anywhere. It’s hard because I also have a sensitive side maybe appeal to that?    

Good Luck...Military school really not such a bad thing. lol  Point that aggression in a positive direction somewhere maybe karate or T-ball so maybe instead of fuming at Mom the Aggression then possible channeled someplace out and easier to talk with Mom about what is up instead of being so pissed off to pull her hair. You didn’t mess w/ Mom she makes the food. I can still remember Dad going time out time out with his hands and thus short circuting the Aggression were I would then verbalize. The aggression is an easier way to go but ruins things in the long run.

You never hurt MOMMY! case closed  you have to learn when the aggression can help or hurt you.

 

Good Luck,

Aimee