Carrie,

I feel your frustration. My stepson has tons of aggression as well. We had to get family counseling because it was so bad he gave one of my kids a blackeye twice and the other one a fat lip. We have done yoga breathing with him but at that point it has gone way to far. We have a chart that if he doesn’t throw a fit for the whole day he gets a star (this includes hitting). If he feels anxious he has to start to close his eyes and breath from his tummy and go time out somewhere he feels safe. While he is doing this he imagines something peaceful and fun. We also ended up getting a prescription for zoloft. It has helped take the edge off of him. That was enough for him to be able to self regulate his own anger.

Hope that helps,