this is about your other children without cah.  i know all of you spend a lot of your waking hours with your cah child.  my brothers and sister had some big resentments toward me.  i didn’t understand why.  my sister doing a step in AA shared her feelings.  how she felt growing up about me.  she disliked me because she thought mom and dad didn’t love her, and i found out all my brothers had the same feelings growing up.  i spent so much of my childhood in hosiptals and my parents were always with me and mom and dad never at home with my brothers or sister.  they all thought my parents only loved me.  all of us kids get along great after i ask them how they felt as kids and listen. maybe you should have a family meeting to let the children air there feelings,  about the cah child, it might help them.  i do not know the answer,  i am just letting you know how my whole family felt about cah.  it does effect the whole famly.