Cathy,

Sorry to hear your son is struggling with jobs. I went through this with my 20 year old son (now 33) and he still continues to find and lose OR QUIT job after job. The boss is  a jerk or they wanted him to do something that they did not ask other employees or they picked on him.ect ect. Bottom line he ALWAYS found a way to be the victim. He has Attention Deficit disorder/bi polar . He is extremely very up or at the pits of hell.He has attempted suicide several times and we try to help as much as possible with his distress. But he is also manipultive and can play the I am so wronged card very easily. After a while you can tell which is real and which pleas are for self gain . He is not a bad person ...just troubled and refuses to admit HE HAS A PROBLEM. Medication could and would improve his life tremendously......BUT he does not want it as he wants to control himself HIS way. My point is to let you know it could be something other than CAH. I hope not and the only advice I have to give is what the pyschiatrist told me. I seemed to molly coddle my son too much and I had to let go to let him make his own mistakes  and that means NO MONEY fronted to him until he finds yet another job. no money for gas ???? He rode his bike to work. Wanted to go surfing with the guys for the weekend and did not have money ...he did not go . YES there was complaining ,whining and he made our weekend miserable. But he finally realizes the importance of finding a job before you quit one. STRESS ........... yes plenty on myself and him. oh no what if he takes pills and kills himself ....... I did not and will not let him dominate my love for him and keep me in fear that he will suffer if he does not have his way. AT 20 they are men and they have to live with the choices THEY make. Tough love is hard but necessary for some. It does not mean love and guidance are not there it just means you love them enough to take a stand and force them to be responsible for there actions. We can’t be there for them forever and they need to learn how to function in life with out our paving the roads to make it easy for them. (not saying this is the case for your son) I hope this is just a phase and immaturity as boys are usually a few years behind girls. I honestly don’t know what I would do if he were cah as he is not but his daughter that I am raising is.

I hope this helps you to see how I found solutions to a similar experience.

Sincerely

cherry lane